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ahh!iturnedintoawaffle! (DE) asks
June 26th, 2010 at 11:48pm

Dear Miss Smackers,
My friend won't leave me alone! She is one of my best friends, but she texts me all the time, especially at the worst times, like at dinner or when i'm sleeping. And she also constantly asks to come to my house. I like to hang out with her, but both of my parents work during the week, so I can't hang out all the time. She knows this but asks me anyway. I also need to let her know that I have other friends. She needs to talk to me ALL the time and in school, she never wanted me to work with other friends in cl___. She is a great friend but I need her off my back! I need a way to tell her that nicely because she tends to overreact and get dramatic over little things like that.
By the way,sorry this was so long. ;-)

Miss Smackers replies
July 4th, 2010 at 1:14pm

She obviously thinks u r awesome! So let's keep that in mind. You definitely deserve that have other GF's and to be respected. She isn't respecting you right now. But I think that she also feels insecure about friendship. Obvioulsy, you need to have a girl-2-girl chat. One day when you are alone together tell her that you want to talk about a few things. Start off by telling her what a great friend she is and it would really hurt if you ever lost her. Tell her a couple things you love about her. Next, tell her that while you love texting, there are certain times you are not allowed to text - ie. nighttime, dinnertime, etc. Also, tell her that you can't have friends over when your 'rents aren't home and that it makes you feel bad to always say no, so that if she stops asking it would be awesome. Finally, re___ure her again that she is a great friend, but that you deserve to have other friends, too! Perhaps you can all hang out (if that is what u want). Or if u need alone time with other friends, u just need to do it!! Then remind her that you love her too. If she is still bothering you, it's time to go to your parents. They will help you set boundaries with her, even if they have to tell her themselves. Good luck. This is a tough one, but something that needs to be dealt withone one on one.

pineapple22 (FL) says: August 5th, 2010 at 8:27pm EST

omg i have that same problem my friend is calling like every second of every day i don't wanna lose her but i'm getting real worried plus i started to make up excuses not to talk but i think im being a bad friend but she wn't stop calling! :(

whitehorse161 (TX)

says: July 22nd, 2010 at 10:05pm EST

i had that prob so do what miss smakers said and u will be all wright

MaciMama (AL)

says: July 18th, 2010 at 1:38pm EST

I have that same problen with actualy 2 people when im in class she always talks to me when I am trying to learn!! It really is annoying and idk what to do I have tried talking to her but she just gets mad at me and then she apologizes so i forgive her but she just keeps doing it !The other one does the same thing but she gets mad at everything i say and its really annoying please help!!!!

PerfectMe123 (CN) says: July 16th, 2010 at 1:30am EST

i "had" a friend Starla and she always follows me!!!!! and whenever my C L A S S is in the gym she says nice work! everytime!!! i got sick of it. but i cured it cause this was in grade1 now im in grade5 lol do what i do: if you want her to go away for a while go and run with your "GOOD" friends.

valeriesweetgrl (TX)

says: July 9th, 2010 at 11:12pm EST

i have the same problem with 1 of my friends. shes always texting me or calling me! when she texts its always when i am busy or when i just didnt want 2 talk. and when i dont answer i have like 20 unread messages from her saying "hey r u busy? wanna come over?" or "hey lets go 2 the movies rite now!!" or something else thats really rediculous. if i dont answer in like an hour shes all like "if u dont answer imma come over 2 ur house!!" shes so annoying and sometimes i wish i didnt give her my number or if i could change it!! she always wants 2 hang out!!! o wow i just got a message from her which is not a surprise. imma say i am going 2 sleep which i am in a while lol

SlashFan2 (PA) says: July 8th, 2010 at 10:13pm EST

THAT IS SOOOOO DISRESPECTFUL OF UR FRIEND 2 ASK 2 GO OVER UR HOUSE!!! SO RUDE! U DONT JUST ASK PEOPLE THAT!! I DONT KNOW ABOUT YOU ALL BUT I WAS TAUGHT THAT!

*'macheerleader!* (IL) says: July 8th, 2010 at 7:40pm EST

My friend has this same problem! Okay my friend who is my neighbor told me and my cousin that this other girl in the neighbor hood came to her door and said hey wanna come over I've got a big basmet with a video game that goes vroom vroom! She also said Hey wanna sleep over some time we can be bffs!! My friend doesnt even know her and my friends parents dont even know her family! So my friend has been hiding from her ever since!!!

*juicymakesmehappy*

*'macheerleader!* (IL) says: July 8th, 2010 at 7:32pm EST

hey Justin Bieber and purledoglover-

I feel bad for you!

purpledoglover (LA) says: July 8th, 2010 at 5:48am EST

i have the same problem. she even made these bff collages. in art class she keeps wanting to do joint work, thats soo annoying cuz art is my one best su__ect and she wont let me enjoy it, when i get up to get a brush or something she does something on my painting to surprise me, i no its sweet but it gets soooo annoying. she also tells everyone were bffs and were not!! me and my other friends get so annoyed when she comes up to us when were talking about something personal, we say "we kinda need some time alone, sry" but she just wont go! she's nice but she's sooooo annoying and wont listen to us when we tell her nicely to stop, were gonna have to try something else when school starts agian

cc96 (CT) says: July 7th, 2010 at 4:26pm EST

i know wat u mean. just try to tell her in a nice way. remind her of ur parents working. but be warned she might take it the wrong way.good luck. but miss smakers is right, u should be happy she adores u.

!Sunshinegirl! (AU)

says: July 7th, 2010 at 7:05am EST

LOL

go miss smackers!!

Smurfette458 (AU)

says: July 7th, 2010 at 4:03am EST

i think you should feal lucky but tell her how you feal.

*I Ish a Unicorn*Neigh...RAWR* (CA)

says: July 6th, 2010 at 3:39pm EST

my next door neighbor makes way to much noise! and never leaves my house! he always gets things and eats it! like my oreos he ate them all! and when i went to go eat dinner at cafe rio he went in my backyard! and jumped on my tramp and moved my dogs cage and my dog went on and I got in trouble! its unfair! and he broke my closet and never payed for it! and his hosue he never offers me anything like, 1 time he came over and he said im going home to eat rawmen and he took rawmen from MY pantrey and my mom was angry and i dont want to play with him! i pay the consequences and he comes to my house and does stuff he's not allowed to do at his house and he is a bad influence! please help me! idk what to say! should i say i dont want to be friends because of how many consequences ive got or should i say please go away im mad at you? plz plz!im tired of him, he always eat stuff at my house and not his! he eats my fudge bars, HITS MY DOG WHENEVER IM NOT HOME, feeds them paper and chocolate pieces of ice cream! and jumps our fence when its illeagal and p e e s on the side of our house! its disgusting please help what i can do!

CaliforniaGirl97:) (CA) says: July 5th, 2010 at 10:54pm EST

FizzyPinkApricot:U do realize she's using u to b popular,right? Well...I guess shes 1 of those "friends".Yeah...u know what i mean by "friend" right? : '

() says: July 5th, 2010 at 6:42pm EST

I have/had a friend who does the exact same thing and i confront her nicely about it each time, but she just doesnt quit! She wants to be just like me, she steals all my jokes and always drags attention from me to her. She interrupts me when my friends are laughing and telling me im so funny and she tries to be funny so they will laugh at her and not me. Things like that. She knows people like me alot and think im really funny, so she wants to be exactly like me. she hangs around all the time, and asks me everyday(literally, not even a LITTLE over exajeracting)if i can come over or if she can come over. I just cant stand it. And the worst part is, is that she gossips about me all the time. She talk about how i look and how i dress. She even stoops so low as to tell people im doing very innapropriate things just so she can get attention and everyone will like her, not me. Its just sickening. Im just gonna get it over with and hand it to her straight. I talked to her about this 4 times, nicely. If she cant understand, then ill have to be harsh with her...anyway im not sure exactly why i posted this...i guess to tell u your not alone haha!

fearless72 (TX) says: July 5th, 2010 at 6:19pm EST

Miss Smacker rocks!

caysmiles14 (MA)

says: July 5th, 2010 at 3:20pm EST

My advice is DEFINITELY listen to Miss Smackers she knows the ups and downs to friendship (well I'm pretty sure after what she just said!) So 100% go with Miss Smackers advice!!! Hope you and your friends sort this out!

Dancing•Diva (CN) says: July 5th, 2010 at 12:13pm EST

Second coment

First coment

Macy Star (IN)

says: July 5th, 2010 at 11:53am EST

Ahem (Acts Formal) I agree with Miss Smackers!!!

**(Macy Star)**

firebears (WI) says: July 5th, 2010 at 8:31am EST

your friend should let you have time w/ other friends.

☮ Abercrombie♥Chicky ☮ (WI)

says: July 4th, 2010 at 11:01pm EST

OMG

pretty much same here!!

she always wants to hang out EVERY weekend and she texts me over 5 times a day!!!!!

also she just moved to a different city, but that doesnt mean she should text me 5-8 times a day!!!

like shes my friend and all, but it gets so annoying

Sweet_Belieber (CA)

says: July 4th, 2010 at 10:20pm EST

great advice!

that´s not my case

sorry! but we r like a clique in school, we r only beliebers besties, so anyone whos not a belieber can´t enter, we r not mean, but u should be belieber

We r not nerds, of course we aren´t we r from the Top populars in school, but not to brag

we gossip about JB and his last actions...

blueeyedchic☆ (NY)

says: July 4th, 2010 at 8:19pm EST

Well i have the EXACT opposite problem.

swimmergirl_99 (IL) says: July 4th, 2010 at 5:03pm EST

I have a friend like that.... we hang out all the time but she calls me every day and askes if I'm free. Sometimes I have to lie about what I'm doing or else she will get mad at me for hanging with other girls. I talked to her about it and now it's much better, she still calls alot though!

ehgreenturtle (TX)

says: July 4th, 2010 at 2:41pm EST

YAY THAT WAS THE FIRST COMMENT

says: July 4th, 2010 at 2:40pm EST

i sort of used to have that problem. cuz my friend would always text me.-- and when i wouldnt answer cuz i was busy or just didnt want to talk she would just text me again 10min. later! oh ya and she still always sends me forwards that say things like "u will die if u dont send this to any1" and i dont think those r cool and plus i wouldnt send that to my true friends!! i have told her like a million times but its like she doesnt even care-- so now whenever i get those kinds of forwards i just delete them b4 i read the whole thing.

teacherspet679 (NY) says: July 4th, 2010 at 1:53pm EST

i think you should tell her you have other friends but she could still text you but not come over every day maybe on weekends she could come. and i think you should tell her that you have other gf's that like to hang out with you. hope this works love and kisses, teacherspet679