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sweet♥ (NM) asks
June 13th, 2010 at 9:44pm

Dear Miss Smackers:
I don´t like to steal your time, but I really need help. My parents are getting divorced and I don´t know how to act. I cry every night, but time is making me stronger. But, I can´t stand this, I feel like I want to cry everyday, but I have brothers and sisters and want to be a good example?

S.O.S. help me plz, I would be very thankfull :)

Miss Smackers replies
July 26th, 2010 at 10:36am

First, you are not stealing my time!!! I am here to help and wish I could answer every questions. Second, I hope that every girl who has been through this responds. It is completely understandable why you are so sad. When parent divorce it is tough on the entire family. It changes so much. I know there are plenty of books written to help kids through this. You may want to check them out of the library. It may also help to read them with your mom and or dad. That way you can talk about how you are feeling. If you can't talk with them, find a trusted adult to discuss your feelings with. It is OK to cry about it and even if your brothers and sisters see you crying sometimes, that is OK. Then they know it is OK for them to be sad, too. Then maybe they we feel freer to talk to. Please find someone to talk to. Always know that the divorce is not your fault and your parents are doing what they think is best. Let's help sweeta out!!!! XXXOOO

musicgirl7898 (CT)

says: August 10th, 2010 at 10:14am EST

id love to be best friends

lolli9 (LA) says: August 8th, 2010 at 1:19pm EST

it is ok sweet i know how u r feeling

Shop♥Diva (NY)

says: August 8th, 2010 at 12:26pm EST

MusicGirl7898:

Girl, no probs, it's okay, and thanks <3 wanna b friends?

₪♥▄• Mary-Anne •▄♥₪

mabfa (NH) says: August 6th, 2010 at 1:04pm EST

just like luvslipgloss101 said! There is upsides to divorce as she stated such as duble holidays!
My parents are divorced too. youre not alone!!!

luvxoxo (NY)

says: August 6th, 2010 at 11:38am EST

aww its okay sweetie. if you need a shoulder to cry on i'll be here for you.

says: August 6th, 2010 at 10:59am EST

thank u soooo much shopdiva i appriciate it

i am sooooo sorry about your problem that u needed to talk about with miss smackers is there any way i can make it up to u

and again it was soo nice of u to forgive me i am so sorry about my lie i am sorry i made u cry i am sorry u seem so nice and i seem so horrible i am so sorry

god bless u

i am sorry

says: August 5th, 2010 at 9:43pm EST

musicgir7898:

I have to say you tht i know exactly what u did, and i have to say u tht on that day on live chat i ha an urgent problem to talk with Miss Smackers an thnx to your lie i couldn't talk with her and now my problem is worst, and beside tht i was cryin when u said that on live cht, i swear it, i was very sad and i talk about this with some of my besties, so let me tell u what u did was wrong but look, i forgive u

And sweet:

hey sweetheart well, my parents arent divorced but maybe if i say tht i can hurt u, but well like someone down there said: Pray so much, in this cases God is the only one can help, and strenght keep being strng but not too much, if u wanna cry, well freely cry as much as u want!

Hope dis helped honey! Good luck and best wishes from here adorable



Peace ppl

Live Love Laugh Dream Create... BELIEB!!!

() says: August 5th, 2010 at 2:16pm EST

god prey

horseajb (WA) says: August 4th, 2010 at 11:28pm EST

my friends mom and dad are getting a divorve and my mom and dads friends are, and my older sister got 1 a few years ago,and my friends naibor got 1 so u are not the only 1

maeve (CN)

says: August 4th, 2010 at 7:06pm EST

Why dont you pray about it to god he can help he got my parents back together he can do the same to yours

- pray to god he will always luv u!

yourockgurl9 (MD) says: August 3rd, 2010 at 11:18am EST

i want to give musicgirl a 2nd chance, but what she did is kinda sick. but i still could give her a chance.

and sweet, i know its hard with your parents and all, but just talk to them. tell them how you r feeling. and just listen to miss smackers, she is the best!

hope you get through this tough time. god bless you

6778 (AL) says: August 3rd, 2010 at 11:14am EST

i agree, musicgir7898 does need a second chance. and to anyone who isn't thats just wrong. you don't even know musicgir7898

* hope this helps *

y78 (AL) says: August 3rd, 2010 at 11:11am EST

everyone deserves a 2nd chance i know she did a sick thing but sick or not she is sorry

y78 (AL) says: August 3rd, 2010 at 11:10am EST

hey musicgirl i know u r sorry i forgive u humans make mistakes and u r a human i know that people think it is sick but just give musicgirl a chance she made a mistake she probably regrets just forgive her

I luv Canterwood Crest (NC) says: August 2nd, 2010 at 9:51pm EST

My parents havent divorced or anything but one of my friend's parents have and I know it must feel wierd. It was even wierd for me and it was just my friend!!! Talk to your family about how you feel. I am pos___ve you will feel at least 50% better.

ehgreenturtle (TX)

says: August 2nd, 2010 at 1:29am EST

my parents havnt divorced but i think i know how you feel- my best friends parents divorced and she told me everything- talk to your parents! they can help you and your siblings through this! who knows- they might be having a bad time too- but if you dont want to talk to your parents about it you can always turn to somebody you trust and love- it can be a
big help!
i hope this helped in some small way!

music chic (AL) says: August 1st, 2010 at 9:23pm EST

my parents divorced when i was 2 or 3 and im 12 now. so i dont remember it. but i really feel bad for you. hang out with your friends. maybe that will keep your mind off things. im really sorry. and dont be so modest your not wastingf her time.

and musicgirl thats just wrong.

says: August 1st, 2010 at 12:59pm EST

im sorry i lied plz u have to understand

~*Magenta*~ (CA) says: August 1st, 2010 at 2:19am EST

omg im so sorry!! mi parents were like that but i talked with them and a few mothes later we were all living all in the same house :D

BDONALDSON (TX) says: August 1st, 2010 at 1:50am EST

i now how u feel my parents are going threw the same thing but i only have an older brother but u dont know what to do when my parents fight all i do is go to my room grab some head fones and my mp3 and lesson to some music try not to hear what they are saying it makes u feel down and bad but i just whant to let u know i feel for u and i know right where u are coming from

Macy Star (IN)

says: July 31st, 2010 at 12:40pm EST

Well Sweet♥ my parents arent divorced but i understand how you feel remember its okay to cry lik misssmackers said and always Always ALWAYS remember God is with you and will always help u thru anything god is ur best friend god bless you!

**(Macy♥Star)**

i_heart_music (CA)

says: July 30th, 2010 at 10:48pm EST

i have that same problem right now i have some advice talk to people you cant keep it bottled up talk to your friends dont be afraid to cry
you always can set a good example for your sibblings always remember every thing will be fine after a while you will adjust if you just belive things will because thats what i did and honestly im fine and im not upset

kakakool (CA) says: July 30th, 2010 at 10:20pm EST

I think you should talk to them about how you feel and maybe they will be a speacil arange,ment to make you feel alot better and i think you should just be really greatful that you have loving bros and sis's and i feel veryy sorry for you if that didn't make u feel better i am still vrey sorry you will be in our prayers goodnight!!!!:):):):):):(:(:(:(:(

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lipgloss98 (FL) says: July 30th, 2010 at 2:08pm EST

well my parents arent divorced so i dont know how you feel but if my parents were divorced id make them feel guilty and ill beg them to at least stay in the same house you can sleep in diff rooms if you want to and i also would say if you are going to remarry marry each other because i think it would be awkward to be calling somebody else mom and dad and sa im related because i know we are not just sit down with your mom and dad brothers and sisters and have a nice long talk on what yall should do

hoped it helped

love peace and happiness

ziz2 (MA)

says: July 30th, 2010 at 11:33am EST

says: July 30th, 2010 at 11:32am EST

Glamour♥Girl (IL)

says: July 30th, 2010 at 9:46am EST

i wouldnt know how you felt because my parents arent divorced but if they were id feel the same way. id cry all the time and feel sad. so dont worry. other girls go through the same thing.

good luck

hope this helped

fearless72 (TX) says: July 29th, 2010 at 11:09pm EST

God bless u too,honey:)

luvslipgloss101 (MO) says: July 29th, 2010 at 9:18pm EST

My parents have been divorced sence i was 3 and now im 12 so i know for sure how u feel and i was like u! i didnt have a sister but all my friends a Pre school were talking about there normal families and i felt left out i still see my dad and my mom both and when im sad i look at the ups!

~ Double holidays and presents

~ Two AWESOME houses

~ two great dogs ( this may differ)

and i get twice the time to relax :)

im sure ur parents understand how u feel and it may be for the best, would u rather them not be happy and have that pushed onto you? every1 is unhappy for a while buty things should get better :) hope this helped

xoxoxo Luvslipgloss 101

sweet♥ (NM)

says: July 29th, 2010 at 7:54pm EST

OH JEEZ!!! Miss Smackers thank you so much 4 picking me! i`m very thankfull!!! and also thank you all girls for helping me, i feel so much better now, thank you thank you thank you thank you thank you! God bless!!!

Marxy (CA)

says: July 28th, 2010 at 5:32pm EST

I know exactly how you feel. Find a friend. It's part of the reason they exist: to help you through stuff like this. Hope I helped!

() says: July 28th, 2010 at 3:23pm EST

yo bubble chic you prob do not even no how that is cause it is not you it is yo friend you ____ty _____

bubblegirl11 (GA) says: July 28th, 2010 at 12:45pm EST

My friend is dealing with the same thing... i know how you feel.

mcmuffin;-) (IL)

says: July 28th, 2010 at 10:53am EST

my parents have been arguing a lot and i use to cry but now i try to ignore it and live my life as a happy person. But it's always there, in the back of my mind.

They would divorce, but then we would lose our house, we would move and lose money and the costody battles, and my parents told my sister and i that they didn't want to go through that. So they're staying together just for us.

but our family doesn't feel much like a family anymore.

trust me, this happens to thousands of girls all over the world. Don't feel alone. And its ok to cry. So just understand that you're not alone.

GOOD LUCK!

-mcmuffin

pinkmorg6 (DE)

says: July 28th, 2010 at 10:09am EST

My friends prents are getting devorced,but she doesnt cry, she says she hopes her moms new houuse is eaten by termites... and things like that... people all have ways with dealing. My dad left when I was 8months..... but he was a bad parent... It tsakes time to deal with insane, crazy, sad things, belive me... its hard... but you can do it...

and to musicgirl7898 ... thats sick and wrong, if you dont know what im talking about, check the second to last comment.....

CaliforniaGirl97:) (CA) says: July 27th, 2010 at 7:33pm EST

Hey:)It's OK! This happens to a lot of ppl...My parents got divorced too,and I had to move away from my beloved California all the way here to Texas.It was hard(it stil is, sometimes I wish i could go back to my old life,back to where all my loved ones are instead of being here having to go to some jr.high i don't wanna go to).But I remind myself:Hey,don't worry EVERYTHING happens for a reason, for a GOOD reason.I promise you EVERYTHING will turn out to be OK.GOOD LUCK! PEAACE :)<3

MaciMama (AL)

says: July 27th, 2010 at 9:23am EST

Diva that is exactly what happend to me i was that age and so was my sis Good luck

fearless72 (TX) says: July 27th, 2010 at 12:24am EST

dont worry everything will work out:) cry if u want its ok to cry,sometimes it helps to cheer up your siblings it will make u stronger and in time you'll learn that its all for the best.it may not sound right at this moment but it'll come out fine.

bieberlicious99 (OR)

says: July 26th, 2010 at 11:07pm EST

And please express your feelings!! You should and can cry I'f you feel like It! And you need to let your parents know what you feel when u figure it out!!! ;)

says: July 26th, 2010 at 11:04pm EST

I completely know how you feel. I was three when my parents got divorced, I was young. But I still knew I didn't see daddy as much. It is completely ok now to know how to feel. And your friends will and should be for you right now. I'm sorry your parents are getting divorced.
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CoolGirl5 (TX) says: July 26th, 2010 at 5:08pm EST

wow musicgirl...wow

says: July 26th, 2010 at 4:11pm EST

I agree with Miss Smackers

! ~ TOMMY GIRL ~ ! (WI) says: July 26th, 2010 at 3:20pm EST

ok my parents have been divorced so i know how you feel but i was only five when they did so i guess i really diddnt understand and my sister was 3 so she really dosnt understand either so yeah i wish you the best and hope you can get through this and hope you can see both mom and dad when they are split up

says: July 26th, 2010 at 12:18pm EST

miss smackers if u see this i am sorry i lied but my mom and dad are not dead i just said that to see how people would react i am sorry i hope you forgive me plz

says: July 26th, 2010 at 12:16pm EST

first comment and i would feel the same way if my parents got divorced